For many brides-to-be, bachelorette parties are considered the “last fling before the ring.” This happy occasion brings together all the bride’s best girlfriends and, for some brides, even close family members, for a night out on the town or a weekend away.
Plan Ahead to Party
Usually hosted by the bridesmaids or the maid/matron of honor, the bachelorette party is not a gift-giving event in the manner of a bridal shower. Instead, the costs associated with this festivity are typically spread out among the attendants. If you’re hosting or co-hosting a bachelorette party, these are steps you should take before you send out invitations:
- Ask the bride for a guest list. It’s bad form to invite anyone to the bachelorette party who isn’t invited to the wedding. Also considered a faux pas? Inviting anyone who doesn’t know the bride (no, your friend’s sister can’t come).
- Once you have a general idea of who and how many are celebrating, take a poll of what (or where) works for the majority of those attending. A destination bachelorette party can be fun, but not if only five of the 15 guests can make it work.
- It’s standard to cover expenses for the bride – from meals to hotel rooms. Split costs evenly among the group and be upfront about those expenses so everyone can plan accordingly. Websites like Last Bash can help with organization.
The Expense of Experience
It’s important to make the day, evening or weekend all about the bride. If she loves to dance, a glittery sash and bottle service at the swankiest club in town is great. However, if she’s more comfortable in the great outdoors, consider a backyard campout or weekend in the woods. Don’t let your creativity be stifled by the traditional expectations of what a bachelorette party is “supposed to be.”
Another tradition you can feel free to ignore or embrace is the gift. Sometimes, a bachelorette party is a good opportunity for guests to give silly gag gifts but don’t feel obligated. As always, check with the bride before you decide. You don’t want the bride to feel embarrassed at her own party!
Ultimately, this is a party where it simply isn’t about gifts – it’s about celebrating the bride and her friendships. With that in mind, any bachelorette party is sure to be a success.