One thing that we have been working on is helping our children know what is expected of them. We stick with positive reinforcement and give an allowance, not for things that are expected (such as making beds, picking up clothes), but things they do above and beyond what we ask.
If you’re trying to work on this, I’d recommend this responsiblity chart. We have it and LOVE it! It is so great because at the end of the day, our daughter gets to put her own smiley faces on the things she did – and leaves blank the items those on which she didn’t do so well. It helps her take ownership of her responsibilities in being a member of our family.
Amazon is offering this Melissa & Doug Responsibility Chart for $13.00 right now – down from $19.99. Make sure that you sign up for Amazon Mom before you shop to get a free trial to Amazon Prime and you will get it shipped for free!
You might want to also check out all of the toys on clerance during Amazon’s Winter Savings Event – nice way to stock up and save!