Your friend is getting married and you’ve been invited to her bridal shower! How fun! But, that also means you need to come up with a gift idea! You may also wonder who is hosting this shower, what makes a good gift and how much should you spend.
Bridal showers are a great way to celebrate the bride-to-be. It is the opportunity for her close family and friends to celebrate her upcoming wedding and marriage.
Friends come together and “shower” the bride with gifts. But, what should you get for her? What makes a good bridal shower gift?
GIFTS FOR A BRIDAL SHOWER
Gifts are part of most bridal showers. Most of the time, you will know the bride and have some ideas in mind. You might even be a member of her pAnd, these days, most invitations will let you know where the couple happens to be registered.
But, if are not given any direction, figuring out a unique gift idea could be a challenge. Don’t focus on the wedding as much as the bride. What is her personality? Is she fun, quirky or conservative? That will help you figure out the type of bridal shower gift to give to her.
TRADITIONAL SHOWER GIFT IDEAS
If your bride is more conservative and reserved, a traditional gift might be the best way to go. But, that does not mean it has to be boring! Even the things they need can be fun and unique!
COOKBOOKS FOR TWO
If your bride and her groom love to cook, cookbooks are a fun gift idea! You can find all sorts of cookbooks for couples or two, to help them get started cooking together.
Add an apron, fun cooking utensils or even a gift certificate – for when dinner doesn’t go as planned.
COFFEE OR ESPRESSO MAKER
If your bride-to-be loves her morning coffee, something such as an espresso maker would be perfect! Something such as this Ninja Coffee Bar single serve system makes both coffee and espresso and is affordable.
New sheets and pillowcases can make for the perfect gift. But, that doesn’t mean they need to be borning! Find a way to add some fun to the bedding for the happy couple – such as these Mr. & Mrs. pillowcases.
There is nothing like new bath towels. But, not just basic towels, but luxurious bath towels. She won’t buy them herself, so she’ll appreciate getting them from you.
INSTANT POT OR SLOW COOKER
Instant pots are very popular right now – and for good reason! You can make an entire meal in less than an hour, which is perfect for those couples leading a busy life! You can also consider a bluetooth slow cooker instead. Toss in a cookbook or two, so the couple will have unique recipes they can create together.
If the couple loves to bake, a new set of bakeware is a great idea! Toss in some of your family’s favorite recipes, so he and she can continue your favorite family traditions.
PICTURE HANGING KIT
If you know your couple is moving into a new home after their wedding, this would make a great idea! Include a hammer, nails, screws, 3M hangers and more — all to help them hang all their decorating items. You can even toss in a special frame or other artwork.
PERSONALIZED GIFT IDEAS
WEDDING DRESS HANGER
Aren’t these beautiful?! Get her a wedding dress hanger with her new name on it, so it will hang her gown. As an added bonus, it makes for a perfect photo opp!
Even if the wedding is in the spring, a personalized Christmas ornament with the wedding date of the couple makes a perfect gift! It is something they will cherish for years to come.
DATE NIGHT BOX
Encourage them to spend time together with date night ideas! Something such as this date night box is a whimsical way to give them ideas of things they will be able to do together.
WEDDING DAY SURVIVAL KIT
Let’s face it, something is going to go wrong on her wedding day. Fill this survival kit wedding day bag with the things she may need such as aspirin, mints, needle/thread, band-aids, snacks, makeup remover wipes, mini win bottles — anything at all! It is a fun way to personalize a gift just for her.
Every bride loves something that commemorates her wedding day. Purchase a sign with their names and special dates on it. This one pictured above shares the day they met, the day he proposed and wedding date – all on a single sign. You can find all sorts of gorgeous name signs on Etsy.
MANICURE OR PEDICURE
Every bride should be pampered during the days leading up to her wedding. A gift certificate for a manicure and/or pedicure will not only take a little expense off of her but also let her just enjoy some downtime before the big day.
If your bride-to-be is heading away on a tropical honeymoon, give her a bag filled with all she’ll need! Pick up a tote, sunglasses, hat, sunscreen, water bottle – all the things she’ll need to enjoy her time on the beach.
If not a tropical location, turn it into a travel bag with a pillow, earbuds, books, and snacks she and her hubby can enjoy on their flight.
BRIDAL SHOWER ETIQUETTE
By the very nature of the name – “shower” – gifts are expected. However, the expectations regarding these gifts, how they’re requested and who gives what and when is a little more nuanced. But what are the rules for the party?
WHO SHOULD HOST A BRIDAL SHOWER?
It is a common question amongst friends of the bride – who should be the hostess?
Showers are typically hosted by the maid or matron of honor. Sometimes, other members of the bridal party also volunteer to help plan the get-together. It is typically held in the months or weeks before the wedding. However, they can really be thrown by anyone (except the bride and groom, of course), including relatives or co-workers.
The recent trend toward couple showers broadens the acceptability of having a shower thrown by anyone – including groomsmen!
If you decide to throw a party for the bride or the couple, make it easy for your guests. Include information about registries on the invitation. And, while it’s not part of your duties, it doesn’t hurt to encourage the bride and groom to register for items across a variety of price points.
Since showers are thrown to help the happy couple stock up on items for the home they’ll soon be – or are – sharing, gifts like kitchen appliances or linens are fairly common. However, new trends include adventures the couples enjoy such as camping or the outdoors.
However, if the registry is sparse or nonexistent, or the couple’s circumstances are such that they don’t need household items, use the shower as an opportunity to get creative. Throw a shower with a theme that relates specifically to the bride or the couple. For instance, if she loves to cook, ask guests to put together a gift built around a favorite meal and to share their recipes as well.
Lastly, it’s understood that hosting the party is a gift in itself. If you’re co-hosting with others and the costs associated with the party are split evenly, consider going in together on a pricier gift, like a grill or vacuum cleaner.
Before you rush out and buy a gift, you should understand the do’s and the don’ts of gift giving.
HOW MUCH SHOULD I SPEND ON A GIFT?
As a guest to the shower, the first rule regarding gifts is to give what you can afford. Remember, a gift is just that – it’s not an entrance fee or a measurement of your feelings.
If money is tight, it’s perfectly reasonable to make a gesture with a handmade or sentimental gift or card. Well-thought-out family heirlooms are also acceptable and often very treasured. If you can’t find anything on the registry that appeals to you or your wallet, it’s okay to choose your own gift.
The conventional price range for shower gifts is between $25 and $75 and is based on your financial situation and your relationship to the bride or couple. If you’re planning to attend the wedding as well, it’s perfectly reasonable to budget for your shower and wedding gifts and give accordingly.
The same goes for attending multiple showers for the same bride or couple, as is expected for members of the wedding party. If you’re a bridesmaid, a personal attendant or serving in some other official capacity, the rules are a bit different for you.
MUST I GIVE A GIFT?
The shower is held to “shower” the bride with gifts. So, not bringing a gift would be in poor taste.
However, if money is tight, there is nothing that says you need to purchase something for the bride-to-be. You could offer your services such as house or dog sitting while they are away on their honeymoon. If you are a stylist, you could help her try hairstyles. You could even volunteer to be her personal assistant on her wedding day.
The bridal shower is a fun way to for her to spend time with the people she loves as she plans for the big day!