Last month, I shared a new reward/consequence system we were trying with our kids. We called it the Ticket Reward System. Since it has been a few weeks, I thought I’d just report back to let you all know how it was working out for us.
I can put how it is working into one word – AMAZING!!! I really can not believe that this has been working so well for our kids. When we first started, we gave out a lot of tickets – for everything from eating a new vegetable to making their bed in the morning. Now that we have settled into our routine, we give a ticket if they get ready for school without complaining (that includes breakfast, getting dressed, making beds and picking up their rooms). We hand them a ticket when they are playing nicely together or do something sweet for one of their siblings.
The beauty part of this system is the taking of the tickets. Now, when the kids do something they shouldn’t (and know they should not either), I simply look at them, say the phrase “Ticket Warning” or even the word “Tickets” and they normally stop in their tracks. If they continue, I walk to their little pail pull out the ticket and tell them that I just took a ticket. That seems to make them really stop whatever it is they are doing. It is amazing how the threat of losing a ticket affects them.
As far as cashing them in, this is working very well too. They sometimes want a new app which may cost $0.99 – $2.99. Now, we tell them to hand over one ticket for each dollar. They really think about how badly they want to play the app. My oldest has been at the store and wanted something and so I pay for it and when we get home, she hands over her tickets. Each Sunday we remind them that they need to give to others and they each cash in one ticket and donate $1 at church. As much as I figured that they would complain, they really don’t! I am truly shocked.
So, for us, this system really seems to be the one that works. It has been just about one month, but so far, we are pleased with the results. We are getting what we were hoping for – less bad behavior and an increase in the good. Here’s to hoping we continue!! If you want to try this for yourself.
Have you tried this new system? What are your experiences?